So, as we are just beginning the wedding season 2016, we had a thought.
Why do some people choose not to have a first dance?
The picture above is from our last wedding, the Kimbers, who chose to have a first dance (and a beautiful one it was too!) but what about those people who decline the option to have a few minutes where every person in the room is looking at them, after all, hasn't that been happening all day anyway?
The first dance is a traditional element of the wedding reception, but in our experience around 20% of our couples choose not to have one. They explain that for many of them, having all their friends looking at them doing sometime out of their comfort zone is too much for them to deal with. Even if you are ok with everyone looking at you, many are conscious of a perceived inability to dance - what do you do then? the 'dad' shuffle from side to side? the choreographed routine? or just stand still and wait for the music to finish?
Remember - many photographers will request a first dance with just the bride and groom - it makes for great photos, many of which are quality shots which feature on the wall for years to come. We always encourage the bride and groom to at least start a first dance - then we invite their friends and family to join them to make them feel less awkward. Most of our couples go for this option - we pick a suitable point in their song, give a quick announcement and very soon, a packed dancefloor of guests are shuffling to the remainder of their special track.
We really don't mind what our special couples do - as long as they are happy and comfortable with the evening!
What do you think?
So, after a quiet couple of months, we got back on the wagon and attended the Wedding Daze wedding fair at Poole Lighthouse in mid February. With experience at a couple of wedding fairs we decided that we would leave our kit behind and sell the business in the best way possible...using US and how passionate we are about providing the perfect soundtrack to every event we play for.
We showed up with 45 minutes to go before over 200 wedding couples were perusing the 80 or so stalls in the Lighthouse. "Oh , we thought you weren't coming, It must take you a while to set up" the organisers said to us....a voice in the back of my mind suddenly wasn't so sure on our decision. The other two DJ's who were present brought their full set up with them, all singing, all dancing. With lights drifting all over the venue hall and music playing, we debated our decision further. Were we wrong not to bring out kit with us? We had photographs with us, banner stands and a video playing, plus obviously you can see our kit on this very website, but is that as good as seeing the real thing?
Some couples walked straight past us, giving us the same 'I don't want to stop and talk' look that we, ourselves gave other providers when we got married in 2014, but they did that to lots of stalls. Some looked at us and seemed puzzled - were these the people we had lost out on because it wasn't clear what we were selling?
Every couple we spoke to said no, that they didn't need to see our modern set up because they weren't sure that that is what differentiated DJ's - it was their ethos and attitude to the events they played at. Carol and I were chuffed, "That's exactly what I think" we said to each other....but there was a little niggling thought in the back of my mind....still I wasn't sure
So what do you think? Do you need to see the kit of a DJ before you will book them? Is their expertise and personality important?
Help us out!
And so another Christmas party season is over...
After 13 different parties at 3 different hotels plus three children's parties it is time to hang up the headphones for a few days until New Years Eve 2015.
We have had a very successful festive season, 9 amazing ski lodge parties at the Hotel Miramar plus providing the music for gala evenings there, a party at the Salterns in Poole and supporting the fabulous Ceri Dupree at the Cumberland Hotel. Primo Parties have met some amazing people, demonstrated numerous party dances and played some very random requests.
Thank you all for your support in 2015 and we are already looking forward to providing the entertainment at even more events throughout 2016!
Merry Christmas and a prosperous new year to you all!
Welcome to the first ever Primo Parties Blog!!
We will be updating you on a regular basis about what we are doing, people and companies we have met and worked with as well as event advice and planning tips.
Our first proper blog post will let you know about our experiences as DJ for the Dorset Wedding Awards...watch this space!