So, as we are just beginning the wedding season 2016, we had a thought.
Why do some people choose not to have a first dance?
The picture above is from our last wedding, the Kimbers, who chose to have a first dance (and a beautiful one it was too!) but what about those people who decline the option to have a few minutes where every person in the room is looking at them, after all, hasn't that been happening all day anyway?
The first dance is a traditional element of the wedding reception, but in our experience around 20% of our couples choose not to have one. They explain that for many of them, having all their friends looking at them doing sometime out of their comfort zone is too much for them to deal with. Even if you are ok with everyone looking at you, many are conscious of a perceived inability to dance - what do you do then? the 'dad' shuffle from side to side? the choreographed routine? or just stand still and wait for the music to finish?
Remember - many photographers will request a first dance with just the bride and groom - it makes for great photos, many of which are quality shots which feature on the wall for years to come. We always encourage the bride and groom to at least start a first dance - then we invite their friends and family to join them to make them feel less awkward. Most of our couples go for this option - we pick a suitable point in their song, give a quick announcement and very soon, a packed dancefloor of guests are shuffling to the remainder of their special track.
We really don't mind what our special couples do - as long as they are happy and comfortable with the evening!
What do you think?